My Fetish Diary: Cravings and Denial
I am going to share with you some thoughts I have about Dominance and submission. I have been battling with myself how personal I want to be on a blog like this – how much of my true feelings I should divulge. I know there has to be a line because there are things that’s not meant to be shared. But there’s some things pretty close to my heart –both SL and RL – that I would really like to talk about and even discuss. And one of these things are the idea of D/s-relationships – like: a bad girl get spanked and a lot of disciplinairy attention from her Master or Mistress. But what does a good sub or slavegirl get?
I’m not sure it’s even good form to focus on the needs of a submissive as it seems the only thing we should concern ourselves with is the pleasure of serving and pleasing our Dominant. But surely subs and slaves are people too and we have hopes and dreams, desires and expectations in life? What is our dreams when we enter a romantic sexual relationship where someone else has all the power?
I love kinky rough sexual play. Spankings, forced sex, bondage, exhibitionism gives me an insane rush. I would love these in any relationship. But these acts – which can easily be confused with punishments – seems to be reserved for the bratty subs/slaves who act up or don’t follow orders – because when it all comes down to it: how can a Dominant flog or spank someone who’s making him/her proud and please them at all times without looking like a complete dork? Being a well behaved, driven human being doesn’t seem to grab me many stroppings. It just makes life almost vanilla. That’s when i ask myself: should I be crafty and act bratty (which I have heard Doms say they find irritating and tiresome) – or just give up D/s? How come the brats gets to “feel” the discipline instead of being ignored by their Doms? Surely the latter would put an end to disobediance or brattiness forever as noone likes being ignored. Let me know your thoughts on this.