A Curious Angel
Well we are entering the quiet week as folks tend to call Easter over here so I thought I’d present you with an angelic picture and well, this is about as angelic as this girl gets. Anyway I promise you the week will not be quiet for me – and hopefully not you either – because there’s so many kinks and so little time, yes? OK so…I’d like to start the week off with something that i have been thinking about a great deal. And that is the Ds relationship and protocol. In every BDSM themed novel I have read, I have found that either 1. people have little imagination or 2. the average D/s relationship is pretty much like a well known choreography. Now truth be told, I may have read a lot of shit (yes I have!) but you gotta go through piles of muck to find one pearl. Lately I have discovered a new author that I really like – Sierra Cartwright – because she writes about dominance and submission on a level that I can relate to (curious girl meets experienced male Dom – cliché but it’s how i roll).
Now to my pondering: a lot of what I have read seems to dwell a lot around the idea of protocol and rituals pretty much based on old classics like “The Story of O”. OK, so a typical scenario would be: Dom comes home, naked sub kneels by the entrance waiting – looking down on the floor, Dom walks up to her, sub kneels and kisses His boots, still looks down until He allows her to look up at Him, Dom attaches her leash and walks her around, sub crawls until given permission to walk, Dom and sub has dinner or some form of meal during which the sub entertains Him with something kinky including her spreading her legs alot and being erotic and arousing, then after the meal it’s time for play, sub kneels again in some dungeon/playroom whatever and lifts her hair, Dom attaches all sorts of implements on her, ties or chains her up and makes sure her collar is in place and then they have some form of scene or punishment if the subs failed to please her Master, during which at some point she will be begging to cum. And so it goes on until finally they end in bed, and if the Master is a cool one he performs aftercare during which the sub mellows out.
The only other alternative to this kind of ritual seems to be those who like their relationships to be as vanilla-looking as possible but what they lead is a very 1950s type husband/wife-marriage where the Dude goes off to work and the wife stays home and does chores, waits on her Man like a good girl and generally has a pretty quiet life with no worries other than looking pretty for the hubby and spreading her legs whenever. He makes all desicions and she just goes with the flow. The ties and restraints is all in the mind – she is bound by His will. Which to me seems kinda boring (not being judgemental here, I’m just sayin) but it’s like a Tammy Wynette song being sung really slow and whiny.
So in a way I see the demand or craving for rituals because the first relation described is by far the most interesting one. But does anyone have any other takes on how a D/s protocol can be kept fresh and interesting? I mean wouldn’t you just hate if the flogging becomes just another “chore” to endure? I would love to hear about it!